Accepting and Apologizing when you are Wrong

Accepting and Apologizing when you are Wrong

As human beings, we are prone to errors. We are imperfect beings and would always make mistakes. We all have to define qualities and behaviors which differentiate us from each other and sometimes lead to friction between us. Making a mistake is only natural; an Inevitable occurrence. What is not inevitable or cannot be predicted is having the courage to accept, admit and apologize for our mistake.

Very few people are able to do all those three things easily and this does not augur well for those who find it hard. Let us then find things to do to help us know when we are in the wrong, except we are and apologize properly.

1. Find out the Reason of your mistake:

When we are lashing out in anger, cheating on our partner, lying to our loved ones, we are conscious of what we are doing; we know what we are doing and the consequences. What we do not really think on, even when we accept we are wrong, is why we did what we did. Knowing why we made a mistake or wronged someone is a crucial step towards avoiding a re-occurrence of that incident.

2. Your Mistakes Do Not Define You:

Everyone falls short every once in a while but these few moments of weakness are not their defining attributes. You are a person with good qualities and hidden talents, and your life or personality will not be judged by your mistakes if they are just one-offs and not repeated. If this is so, you should never be afraid of admitting them because, In truth, no man has grown up without making mistakes or stumbling along the way.

3. Realize That You Are In The Wrong:

We justify our wrongs even when they are being pointed out to us. we tend to be defensive or become smart- alecks about it, preferring to either justify it or straight out deny we are in the wrong. Take a moment to think about it. The person pointing out your mistake to you is not a retard. She might not be totally right but a point is being made and you would do well to listen and think about it objectively.

Let's say you smoke a lot and your family says you should quit smoking but instead you justify it by saying "you smoke because you are stressed or have a lot of pressure!", but is this right? Do people not survive stressful situations without smoking? Do you understand that they have a point by asking you to quit?

4. Empathize with others:

If you have wronged someone, or hurt them knowingly or unknowingly, put yourself in their place and think, how would you feel if the same thing is done to you?

When you understand this and are able to empathize, you would see your wrong clearly and abstain from repeating it.

5. Learn from your Mistakes:

Making mistakes is a part and parcel of living, and they are for learning purposes only. Not to be repeated or turned into a lifestyle choice. For instance, if you don't study well, you would get poor grades. So rather than crying about it. why don't we improve ourselves?